I wish social media didn’t exist.
I’m 100% serious about that statement. This post is really actually a new year’s resolution type post, but its taken me almost a month to get around to writing it. Each year I generally set goals for myself instead of specific resolutions – I’m not one to wait until the New Year to start eating healthier, or try a new workout, or step out of my comfort zone. I tend to use the New Year as a fresh start for things I’ve been struggling with. After my whirlwind of the 2015 (year in review post here if you’re unaware), I wasn’t quite sure what to focus on for 2016. There are plenty of things I could work on, but the one phrase that stuck out in my mind was
“No Comparisons.”
This phrase I find extremely important, especially now that I’m supposedly an “adult” and everyone around me seems to be in different phases of their life. On one hand I have good friends still finishing undergrad at 23/24 and on the other I know people that are married with 2 children at 23/24. Quite frankly neither sound appealing to me, so luckily I’m somewhere in the middle.
This year I’m really focusing on not comparing myself to others in all aspects of my life. Not comparing my body, not comparing my salary, not comparing my closet, not comparing my relationships, not comparing anything. (And it’s hard, let me tell you).
My “motto” for the year brings my back to my original statement…I wish social media didn’t exist.
It’s created this horrible vortex of comparisons. Who can take better staged Instagram photos? Who has more pictures with their significant other on Facebook? Who looks like they had more fun on their SnapChat story this past weekend? And the worst part – I almost feel guilty if I don’t upload something to the blog Instagram daily…
Guess what? I don’t care. And I’m starting to realize that I don’t really want to share much anymore. I’m not concerned about likes, about comments, about who sees my most recent post. I feel myself pulling away from it. Currently I can’t even log into Twitter because I forgot my password, but let’s be real – I hated Twitter anyway.
As I’m sure you’ve noticed my blog posts lately have been few and far between (for many reasons). Now that I’m working full time – I am almost always on the phone or my computer at work, and the last thing I want to do when I get home is open up my laptop. Not to mention my volleyball league on Mondays, the SPIN classes I teach Tuesdays, and my daily workouts & social life.
Because of wanting to be present, and to minimize comparisons – I am going to be slowing way down on blogging, if not stopping completely. There are still a few posts & collaborations I am going to be sharing, along with a few outfits and tips. But, I would guess no more than a few blog posts per month (at most).
I want to thank everyone who has ever read, shared or commented. I appreciate your support! I’m not sure if this hiatus is forever; we will see where life takes me.
Again, a massive thank you – don’t forget about Cassidy Lou (+ stop by for a giveaway on Friday!)
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This is such a powerful post!! I love coming to your blog, and feel that you are a wonderful girl with great style. Social media is a powerful tool to build people and destruct them if not used properly. I fear for my son and daughter who aren’t even in grade school what the world would be like when they become teens with the abundance of media influence constantly surrounding them, I guess we just have to live and learn with it. I hope you find great things in your endeavor and will continue to stop by your blog from time to time. Best wishes!
xo Sheree
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This is a post that I think a lot of us can relate to. I actually just had dinner with a friend last night who told me that she’s deleted all of her social media apps off her phone for a little while, since she just couldn’t deal with seeing everyone’s updates.
It’s really, really hard not to compare yourself to others. I try not to, but I do it all of the time…and I hate that I do.
I also completely understand how difficult it is to work full time and blog, and do 9408329 other things and be your best self in all of them. This is why over the course of my blog’s life, I’ve taken time off…but it’s always there when you want it to be.
If you ever want to chat, rant, etc, don’t be a stranger! I’ve been dealing with a lot of the “What am I doing with my life” questions this week in particular…
Jackie
Something About That
Greetings from a. “Voice from your past!” We have been in Chicago-land for 6 months now and thoroughly enjoying new opportunities and our new home. Often I have checked on Cassidy Lou to see how you are doing. This particular post of late January made me smile! This important step of shedding comparisons will permit you to dig deep into who you are now and how you want to develop your God-given talents physically, emotionally, and spiritually without the burden of constant comparisons. Wishing you all the best and hope that our paths cross again someday. P.S. Now here is something to make you smile – I now love wearing leggings and jazzy/fun tops! Our relocation was a major change so I figured I might as well project a new image from time to time, Be blessed Cassidy Lou –
Susan
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